How to discipline a child without spanking?
My 4 years old son won’t listen to me, how to discipline him without yelling and hitting??
Hi Rajiv, good you thought on these terms, being a parent is blissful experience at the same time it can be very testing and challenging. When a kid misbehaves or back answers or do undesirable things we as parent get this strong urge to hit the child or yell loudly out of frustration. Thinking this will be a quick fix to the problem.
No, this is too good to be true. Yelling and spanking may suppress the problematic behavior for some time but it will aggravate the problem instead of solving it. Spanking a child often leads to aggressive and violent behavior among kids. Kids may think this is the right way to deal with a problem.
Here are some tricks to discipline a child without spanking:
• Explain action and consequences theory :- Tell your child what happened because of erratic behavior and bad consequences which are to be faced by her and our family
• Put her in time out away from all the family members:- This will create a sense of being responsibility. Time out duration should be a minute for a age i.e. 7 year old should face 7 minutes time out.
• Star chart and red flags :- Prepare a star chart for a good behavior and give a red flag for a bad behavior at the end of the month count the star and fix a reward for the good behavior, like good movie, toy or trip to the favorite place.
• Feeling of belonging ness: – love is the ultimate solution, be affectionate, loving and caring. Respect her individuality. Trust her, and be her strong support. Make her feel wanted.
Hope this helps. Good luck!!